Currently i am dating a person whom simply will not keep my awareness, perhaps maybe not for a second. I believe of him on a regular basis. He is pretty unique.

Currently i am dating a person whom simply will not keep my awareness, perhaps maybe not for a second. I believe of him on a regular basis. He is pretty unique.

Help! I am dropping for the fat guy!

I love this person a complete great deal, however the poundage is a turnoff.

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Cary Tennis

July 27, 2006 2:02PM (UTC)

Currently i am dating a person who simply will not keep my awareness, perhaps maybe perhaps not for an instant. I do believe of him on a regular basis. He is pretty unique.

My issue is this: This wonderful man with who i have provided some amazing moments and do share a phenomenal connection. He is obese. He is not only away from form or perhaps a hike and a swim far from fit, he’s fat.

I have produced aware work to check it is, all of the time past it(“it” being my own stupid, shallow, superficial, counterproductive reaction to the weight), but there. During sex, he is conscious, very good, wonderful — we enjoy genuine chemistry — but even if the lights are out I find it hard to navigate their flesh. I am a person that is smallish; it is hard for me to breeze around a person by what small leg i have been provided, never ever mind a person how big is one. 5 men.

Even Worse yet is we worry being truly a selfish fan, because I do not fantasize pleasing him the way in which I would personally ordinarily having a slimmer guy. I am intimidated, daunted and generally speaking unprepared for several tasks.

I don’t understand what direction to go. It really is a turnoff. And worst of all of the, area of the explanation it really is a turnoff is that we see myself having a head-turner as soon as the lights take. I have for ages been with striking men — perhaps maybe maybe not pretty men, but males who’d that quality; in the end, it is that quality which turns my head into the place that is first. And also this guy simply does not light my fire by doing so. I am interested in almost every thing about him but their size. Therefore he does not light my fire, and does not feed my ego within the business of strangers. We hate myself also for admitting it; it is simply therefore trivial.